Monday Morning Mother’s Day Quarterback

A lot of mothers with chronic illness have enormous feelings of guilt that they cannot be “Super Mommy”. That instead of doing things with their children they have to nap. That they often end up just watching their children instead of participating with them.

In the days before Mother’s Day I wondered, “Is the way I parent my child worth celebrating?”

It doesn’t help that I am going through another depressive episode. It’s not the worse one I’ve ever been in but it is taking it’s toll on my daily activities and thought processes.

In my state I often wonder what to do with Tyler. It is difficult doing things with him so I have been taking him to the park. It gives me a chance to rest and watch Tyler play. Sometimes I talk to the other parents and grandparents there and it makes me feel even more inadequate than I already feel.

Yesterday Tyler was excited to give me his Mother’s Day gifts he made at school.

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The inside of the card read:

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In case you are not fluent in a kindergartener’s writing it says, “Dear Mom, Thank you for taking me to the park. You are a peacemaker. Love, Tyler”

I looked at what he had written in disbelief. One of the things that I had felt guilty about doing was one of the things he loved the most about me!

I think this can be a wake-up call for us all. Maybe our worst is not so bad. Maybe we are doing better than we think.

Maybe our children love us just the way we are.

Maybe we really do deserve Mother’s Day.

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About mamasick

Emily Cullen is a pen-name. I suffer from chronic illnesses and diseases which include Bipolar Disorder, Asthma, Diabetes and Fibromyalgia. I had battled Lupus and Rheumatoid Arthritis but there is no longer evidence of me having these diseases and my Rheumatologist has declared them to be "burnt out" of my system. I am separated from my husband, “Grant”. Our son, “Tyler” was born in September of 2006 and suffers from tics and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, and is delayed in fine and gross motor skills. In my blog I seek to let sick moms know that they are not the only ones going through this, and to educate people about what can happens when one becomes catastrophically ill. I also strive to break down stereotypes of what a “Welfare Mom” is like. Anything that I have gone through due to being sick, is written on the pages of Mama Sick.
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4 Responses to Monday Morning Mother’s Day Quarterback

  1. Jennifer says:

    Hello my old friend. So glad to see you back on the internets and finally making your dreams come true. I hope you had a nice Mother’s Day dispite the feelings you expressed in this post. You are a wonderful mother, always doing what is best for your boy. Best of luck in your new venture. I will be cheering you on always. Xo!

  2. Junie says:

    Hi sweetie,
    It’s good to hear from you. I always said growing up I’d never be upset if I couldn’t have children, thought I would adopt if not. Well now I find myself crying over not having a wee one (would now be adult) in my life, yet on the other hand I don’t know how I would’ve managed. I was a special needs famlies nanny for about 20yrs, in some of those years illness and pain started to raise it’s ugly head. Most of the time I’d push through, working bent over in pain knowing I’d be going home at the end of the day. When I was married my illness got worse and I struggled to look after my nephew in my then house.
    You’re a truely amazing Mommy and human being, there are so many that just give in often leaving the children to fend for themselves. You’re doing the best you can, you haven’t given in or given up. Believe your son when he says in his own way YOU’RE THE BEST MOMMY IN THE WORLD.
    Junie´s last blog post ..AS I SLEEP

  3. Paris Bable says:

    yeah, I know the case, It’s great deal of pain to mother that she cannot always play with her child
    Paris Bable´s last blog post ..łóżeczko

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