Tuesdays With Tyler: Red Light

Although I’d like to pretend that life with Tyler is all smiles and sunshine, (wouldn’t we all with our kids?) we do go through some rough times with him.

In the last few months Tyler has developed a temper which I have definitely connected to lack of sleep.  Boy, is he moody in the morning.  “I don’t want to get dressed, you’re a bad mommy…”, and sometimes, he has even hit me.  When he does that he gets punished with something special to him taken away.  And usually he thinks about it and says, “You are a good mommy, and I do love you.”

He’s had some incidents at school as well.  It’s not like a bully thing where kids are scared of him, it’s more like “he’s gonna blow” as he tries to hold his temper in, and the kids in school aren’t scared of him.

Grant and I, along with his teachers are teaching him to see a “red light” and to take a breath before he acts out.  And the always popular, say it with me now…”Use your words”.

Last week Grant and I had our voices raised.  I say that because we don’t really yell, ever.  But as much as we try to keep any angst from Tyler, sometimes it’s hard not to argue in front of him.  And he is very sensitive to it, as most kids are.

Anyway, as we had our “voices raised” in front of him, he suddenly shouts out, “Mommy! Daddy!  Calm down!”  We looked at him.  “Seeee the red liiiight”, he continued. “Now breeeathe, breeeathe.”

We stopped, wordless, looked at him, and then started laughing.  How long can you be frustrated with a four-year-old boy who teaches us that we need to “Use our words better”?


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About mamasick

Emily Cullen is a pen-name. I suffer from chronic illnesses and diseases which include Bipolar Disorder, Asthma, Diabetes and Fibromyalgia. I had battled Lupus and Rheumatoid Arthritis but there is no longer evidence of me having these diseases and my Rheumatologist has declared them to be "burnt out" of my system. I am separated from my husband, “Grant”. Our son, “Tyler” was born in September of 2006 and suffers from tics and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, and is delayed in fine and gross motor skills. In my blog I seek to let sick moms know that they are not the only ones going through this, and to educate people about what can happens when one becomes catastrophically ill. I also strive to break down stereotypes of what a “Welfare Mom” is like. Anything that I have gone through due to being sick, is written on the pages of Mama Sick.
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6 Responses to Tuesdays With Tyler: Red Light

  1. Pam says:


    I love it when they show you that they are learning something. Even if it is to use it back on you.



  2. Mrs. Tuna says:

    I’ve not always found time out to do the ticket. They used red light when Sheldon was in school.

  3. Mrs4444 says:

    That’s AWESOME! I love it. Kendall has always been incredibly sensitive to any disagreement between myself and Mr.4444. Seriously-we could be disagreeing about what show to watch on tv, and she would say, “Mom, Dad–Stop fighting!!” Too funny!

  4. lisleman says:

    well this shows he really did listen to you. Too many times are kids have called us out on our “discussions”

  5. Sarah says:

    LOL. Sometimes it’s the smallest minds that have the clearest picture 🙂

  6. Selena says:

    See, Tyler listens to his parents and now he is returning the favor by teaching you the same lesson. 🙂

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