Approved!

After a three year fight I have been approved for my Social Security Disability Insurance !!!

For so many who get approved there are a lot of mixed feelings involved.  To be finally declared disabled, that you are truly sick enough physically, mentally or both, can be extremely depressing.

I have to say I didn’t really feel that.  I felt that justice had finally been done, that the government finally believes what I have believed for four and a half years, that I am too sick to be able to support myself and my family.

I feel satisfied that those around me who did not believe I was truly sick enough to receive disability or had niggling doubts about how sick I am no longer have much of an argument, although I suppose some will still feel the judge must have made a mistake.

I feel an overwhelming sense of relief that soon I will no longer have to worry about clothing or feeding my son.  That constant fear, that sickening feeling in my stomach when I am in the supermarket.  The praying that no unexpected expenses come up.

But I also know that life, while better, will continue to be a lifelong struggle for us as the total disability income that Grant and I will make is a lot less that I alone made.  We will always have to watch our money and I guess I will continue to pray that no unexpected expenses come up.

Even though I know that I am too sick to work I still have a feeling that I am not contributing to society or the economy, that in fact I am sucking off of it.  Even though, I do not believe that of anyone else I know who collects disability, I still feel that way about me.

I wonder if, as my son gets older, he will understand the meaning of collecting disability and think his parents are losers, lazy, liars, or bums.

On Thursday I went to the doctor and I told the woman at the front desk that I was approved for disability.

“Sweet!”, she replied.

No, it is not sweet.  Winning the lottery would be sweet.  Not being sick would be sweet.  Being able to advance in my career would be sweet.  Providing for my son in the way I would like, in the way he deserves would be sweet.

I really don’t know much right now other than that I have been approved.  Sometimes receiving the initial payment and then the monthly benefit can take a couple of months.

To all who have supported me during this fight I thank you.  To all who are still fighting I say do not give up.  Justice will prevail for you as it finally did for me.

My SSDI Timeline:

October, 2009:  Applied for disability

January, 2010:  Initial Application Denied

July, 2010:  Denied During the Reconsideration Process, heading to a trial

July, 2011:  Disability Hearing

August, 2011:  Social Security Doctors’ Examinations

September, 2011: Results of the Social Security Doctors’ Examinations

December, 2011:  Disability Denied, Appeal is Filed

2012:  Social Security Accepts Appeal, Finds More Fault With Judge’s Decision.  Case is Remanded Back to the Lower Court, I am Given a Hearing “Do-Over”.

October, 2012:  Second Disability Hearing

 

 

 

 

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About mamasick

Emily Cullen is a pen-name. I suffer from chronic illnesses and diseases which include Bipolar Disorder, Asthma, Diabetes and Fibromyalgia. I had battled Lupus and Rheumatoid Arthritis but there is no longer evidence of me having these diseases and my Rheumatologist has declared them to be "burnt out" of my system. I am separated from my husband, “Grant”. Our son, “Tyler” was born in September of 2006 and suffers from tics and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, and is delayed in fine and gross motor skills. In my blog I seek to let sick moms know that they are not the only ones going through this, and to educate people about what can happens when one becomes catastrophically ill. I also strive to break down stereotypes of what a “Welfare Mom” is like. Anything that I have gone through due to being sick, is written on the pages of Mama Sick.
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4 Responses to Approved!

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  2. OzarksUSA says:

    Congratulations! My husband and I also worry about what our future child will think, so I understand. Living off both of our disability monies is hard, but it would be so much harder without it–in fact we’d be homeless. Take care, and I’m very happy for you, it has been a long journey.
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  3. Lauren MacKenzie-Stead says:

    I am soooo Happy for you. I realize that this is bitter sweet and I feel that way every time I fill out the paper work over and over. But think of how much good this will do for you financially and emotionally. You are a great mom and this will help you support your son.

  4. Kellye says:

    So happy that finally the fight is over! I’m in the same boat waiting to hear if I am approved or not so I understand the feelings you were talking about. Way to go. I am so glad you didn’t give up!

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