Tuesdays With Tyler: My Good Fortune

Last week I wrote a post inspired by Mama Kat’s Writer’s Workshop, entitled The Sunshine of My Life. How whatever life threw at me, Tyler was the one who kept me going, the one that was worth living with all of this physical and mental pain, just to have to the privilege of raising this incredible person.

A couple of nights ago we had Chinese take-out.  Tyler loves the whole fortune cookie bit.  I give him first choice, let others pick and I take the remaining one.  I can’t remember what anyone else’s fortune was, but I will never forget my own:

“Stop searching forever, happiness is just next to you.”

It made me realize that I usually feel more unhappy than happy.  I mourn what chronic illness has taken from me and I have never made peace with it.  I have so much anger, so many questions such as “Why did this happen to ME?”, and so much worry.

But why do I keep doing that, what am I searching for when my little boy is just next to me? Is there any happiness greater than having this gift that is my son?

I’m not usually one to give much creedence to fortune cookies, but my mother loves to tell the story of when she was eating in a Chinese restaurant with a friend in early 1969.  Her fortune was:

“Every baby born is finer than the last.”

My mother joyfully exclaimed to her girlfriend, “I’m pregnant!”  Her friend said something along the lines of “You think your pregnant because of a fortune cookie?”

I was that baby.

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About mamasick

Emily Cullen is a pen-name. I suffer from chronic illnesses and diseases which include Bipolar Disorder, Asthma, Diabetes and Fibromyalgia. I had battled Lupus and Rheumatoid Arthritis but there is no longer evidence of me having these diseases and my Rheumatologist has declared them to be "burnt out" of my system. I am separated from my husband, “Grant”. Our son, “Tyler” was born in September of 2006 and suffers from tics and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, and is delayed in fine and gross motor skills. In my blog I seek to let sick moms know that they are not the only ones going through this, and to educate people about what can happens when one becomes catastrophically ill. I also strive to break down stereotypes of what a “Welfare Mom” is like. Anything that I have gone through due to being sick, is written on the pages of Mama Sick.

2 Responses to Tuesdays With Tyler: My Good Fortune

  1. Mrs4444 says:

    Makes sense to me! 🙂
    .-= Mrs4444´s last blog ..Frosh Fun =-.

  2. Josanne says:

    Aww….although I will never try to compare my pains with your physical pains that also cause you emotional pain, I do remember a time in my own life when I never made peace with some things in my own life.
    It reminded me of how a woman tries to fight her contractions, instead of work with them, ya know?
    But I do hope that somehow, you will be able to find the happier moments. In my own life, I made peace with my situation.
    I don’t know if that is something you are able to accomplish, and I certainly cannot tell you how to do it, since I have never been thru what you are going thru. But I do wish you peace and happier moments.
    .-= Josanne´s last blog ..My Marriage Tips =-.

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