Going on Oprah…In My Mind!

This post was inspired by Mama Kat’s Writer’s Workshop.

When I saw the five choices for this week’s assignment I didn’t hesitate as to which one I would pick. I actually wrote to Oprah a few years ago asking her to have someone on her show who has more courage and a greater voice than I do, Christine Miserandino, who formed the But You Don’t Look Sick website seven years ago.

Christine’s website is a haven for people who suffer from Invisible Illnesses, and about 96% of all illnesses are invisible, so very sick people can look perfectly fine when seen by healthy people.

So, here I am on the Oprah Winfrey Show (which I don’t watch, so I am ad-libbing the format):

Oprah:  So Emily, tell me about your reason for coming here today.

Emily:  My purpose is to educate people about Invisible Illnesses and the people that suffer with them.

Oprah:  What is an Invisible Illness?

Emily:  Simply, put it’s any disease, illness or chronic condition that can’t be seen when you look at a person.  A lot of people can “fake it” by putting on make-up, nice clothes and doing their hair, and they don’t look sick at all.  I have Lupus, Fibromyalgia, Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, and Chronic Myofascial Pain, to name a few.

Oprah:  Well I know a bit about Lupus and know it can be a very serious disease, but you’re right, you look beautiful, you look healthy.

Emily:  Well that’s because one of your stylists did my hair and makeup for me.  But I can’t do my hair or makeup and haven’t put on any makeup or done my hair in about a year because that’s too tiring for me.  Some days I can’t bathe because it just takes too much energy.  I am housebound a lot of time because going out to even run simple errands completely drains me.

Oprah:  Wow.

Emily:  I also want to tell you and your audience that when people can’t see that some people are sick, they develop prejudices against them and make judgements about them.  Often a person’s own family or friends do not believe that their loved one is ill because they are not yet diagnosed, or they are diagnosed but they just don’t believe that they could be that sick.  They don’t believe that their friend or family is not only unable to work, but not able to get out of bed.

People also face other challenges.  They may have a handicapped placard or license plate and be able to walk, and people in the parking lot openly berate them for taking up a parking space that is meant for a “sick person”.  They may get dirty or confused looks from people when they use scooters or wheelchairs because they do not look like they need them.

A lot of people start to gain weight from either being unable to exercise due to chronic pain and fatigue or from certain medications.  Then they have to experience the added judgement of people saying, “Well, maybe if you lost some weight, you wouldn’t feel so ill”.

Oprah doesn’t have any advice for me because as far as I know she has never done a topic like this before so she is speechless, except to end the interview.

Oprah:  Well, you’ve certainly educated me and a lot of others (audience makes affirmations). How do we find out more?

Emily:  Well, one can simply google “Invisible Illnesses” or “Chronic Illnesses” and they will find hundreds of websites where they could educate themselves.  It’s important for everyone to learn about, because unfortunately, some day they may find themselves with an Invisible Illness.  And if you know someone with Fibromyalgia or someone who is chronically tired or in pain, learn a little bit about how you can help them, and ask them how you can help them.

Oprah:  Emily blogs about living with her illness while raising a child on her blog Mama Sick.com. Thank you so much for coming to speak with us today.  Coming up, we’ll be talking about fashion “do”s and “don’ts” for the fall.

Enthusiastic audience applause and music, cut to commercial about the latest drug for Erectile Dysfunction.

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About mamasick

Emily Cullen is a pen-name. I suffer from chronic illnesses and diseases which include Bipolar Disorder, Asthma, Diabetes and Fibromyalgia. I had battled Lupus and Rheumatoid Arthritis but there is no longer evidence of me having these diseases and my Rheumatologist has declared them to be "burnt out" of my system. I am separated from my husband, “Grant”. Our son, “Tyler” was born in September of 2006 and suffers from tics and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, and is delayed in fine and gross motor skills. In my blog I seek to let sick moms know that they are not the only ones going through this, and to educate people about what can happens when one becomes catastrophically ill. I also strive to break down stereotypes of what a “Welfare Mom” is like. Anything that I have gone through due to being sick, is written on the pages of Mama Sick.

8 Responses to Going on Oprah…In My Mind!

  1. Paula Kiger says:

    This was an enjoyable post — I would love for Oprah to see it and put you on her show!!
    .-= Paula Kiger´s last blog ..Ill Take the Pictures A Mama Kat Writing Workshop Prompt =-.

  2. Tarunita says:

    Enjoyed reading!
    I love you style of writing 🙂

  3. ElizOF says:

    Emily, You did a terrific job on this interview and the message was conveyed in a strong and clear voice… even Ops was speechless. Thanks for stopping by my blog and for sharing an important subject that needs to be heard.
    The ED blurb at the end was spot on! 🙂

    .-= ElizOF´s last blog ..Thursday Musings- Revisiting Childhood Fears =-.

  4. Sharon says:

    I do not think we could get through an Oprah health segment without Dr.Oz saying what he thinks. But we can hope.
    .-= Sharon´s last blog ..And the Emmy Winners for Best Actor are- =-.

  5. Peg says:

    Definitely made me think. Great post.
    .-= Peg´s last blog ..Happy 60th! Anniversary- that is! =-.

  6. ElizOF says:

    Hi there,
    I forgot to add this after my comment on this post earlier today. This is a follow up to let you know that I am glad to have stopped by to support you as a member of MamaKat’s Writer’s Workshop assignment for the week.
    .-= ElizOF´s last blog ..Thursday Musings- Revisiting Childhood Fears =-.

  7. BLOGitse says:

    wow, what a powerful post…I agree that breaking taboos is the only way to be heard and seen.

    I’ve had breast cancer. It was invisible so nobody really knew what was going on in my head…but I survived and trying to support those who are afraid.
    That’s why it would be so important women have mammography. More often is better than never. Early finding saved most of my breast…

    (I’ve posted of my case with a lot of photos on my main blog – just in case you know somebody who might need support…)

    Have a good week ahead!
    .-= BLOGitse´s last blog ..EDITED version- WOIMA 79 =-.

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